HeartSet: Why Mindset Doesn't Matter

“Change your mindset.” “Let’s shift our mindset.” somebody in a meeting or leadership position says. We hear this often, and nod along without questioning. But is it really the answer?

It’s far from the whole picture. It’s a surface-level band aid, it's painting over rust. It requires constant effort, constant remembering, and often fades the moment pressure hits. Why? Because it works against something deeper. Like pushing upstream, it’s exhausting and unsustainable.

I’m interested in the source of that pressure. Where is it coming from? What if the thing holding you back isn’t your mindset at all, but deeper tensions or restrictions manifesting in your behaviour, which you then try to manage through forced, reactive and mechanical fixes? Remove the source of the pressure, and your behaviours align and flow naturally without a mindset bandaid.

At your core what do you believe about yourself and life? Do you believe you must fight, push, and strive? Or could you believe that life is on your side and that you are already capable, gifted, and complete? Would you like to believe that life is on your side and that your natural state is capable, clear, and free? That you don’t have to fight for freedom and worthiness, but were born with it?

Mindset shifts don’t stick when they’re built on top of inner conflict. That’s why the same patterns always come back. Mindset work, done in isolation, becomes just another cage of more rules, more pressure, more self-judgement and more restriction on your True Self. And this is where many high performers quietly get stuck.

🎯 Takeaway: If your mindset isn’t shifting, it might not be the root issue, it's the symptom of something deeper.

Your Thoughts Follow Your Nervous System

Thoughts don’t appear in a vacuum. They are shaped by emotion, memory, unconscious beliefs and your nervous system. Your thoughts are tailored to you, by you.

Much of this unconscious landscape was formed years ago during our development years, and continue to run quietly in the background until the shape of it is brought to the surface for clear seeing and questioning. When we focus only on thoughts or behaviours, we’re addressing the symptoms of this world, not the source, or the world itself.

One client had a breakthrough after years of constant striving. “I just need to believe I’m good enough,” she said. It was a powerful realisation, but even that insight wasn’t enough. She was a senior leader: outwardly confident, highly effective, and deeply impactful. But beneath the surface, she was exhausted. Laying in bed making new lists. Never truly resting. Constantly scrambling for more, but more was never enough. This had become normal. No mindset shift could hold, because underneath was a part of her still carrying the fear of being overlooked, unheard, unseen, unworthy.

Another client, a driven entrepreneur, kept trying to beat procrastination with productivity hacks and morning affirmations. But underneath was a younger part of him terrified of failing, afraid of being vulnerable, unsure how to be fully himself. His survival strategy was simple: achieve more. It had worked for years, winning praise, likes, and admiration. But it wasn’t nourishing, it was depleting. Behind closed doors, he found himself frozen, wasting hours, ashamed and helpless.

This is why mindset tools so often fall short. They speak to the surface, offering a flicker of hope, while the real driver remains buried, deep in our raw, unprocessed humanity. Behaviour is downstream from belief, and belief is shaped by emotional experiences we haven’t fully felt. Thousands of small moments shape our sense of self and the world. Not all of them shape us in healthy ways. Some imprison parts of us.

But these parts can be met. Understood. Re-parented. And in doing so, we free them and ourselves. In that moment, our system changes. And we change.

Until we meet the part of us that formed the thought, it won’t change.

🎯 Takeaway: Sustainable change comes when we work with the parts of us beneath the thoughts, not just the thoughts, these are symptoms not causes.

Your 'Faults' Are Trying to Help You

Most of us try to override or silence the parts of ourselves we don’t like: the procrastinator, the doubter, the critic, the one who shuts down or lashes out. We treat them as faults to fix, obstacles to overcome, or proof that something is wrong with us. They become secrets we hide from the world. But these parts are not mistakes. They are intelligent signals. They are speaking for a reason and showing themselves because they need help. That is the gift.

We are not one self, but many. Inside each of us lives a system of parts: subpersonalities, patterns, or energies, each carrying its own emotion, history, and role. And every part is trying to help. Even the ones that appear self-sabotaging are protectors, following old instructions learned during earlier, more vulnerable moments in life.

The inner critic may speak with cruelty, but it is often trying to shield you from failure or rejection. The procrastinator may be protecting you from overwhelm or from taking a risk that feels unsafe. These are not mindset issues. They are survival strategies formed through real experiences. Wounds that speak through behaviour.

These parts will not shift through force or suppression. You can try to outrun them for decades, but they will not leave. They are timeless until met. But once you turn toward them, listen, and understand their purpose, everything changes. Entire decades of patterning can shift in minutes.

This is the real work of transformation. When we honour these parts, hear their concerns, and invite them into new roles, the whole system updates. That is when things stop feeling like a struggle. That is when you begin to fly.

🎯 Takeaway: Every unhelpful belief started as a survival strategy. Honour it first, then you can evolve it.

The Heart Has Its Own Intelligence

We love labels and names. But a tree has no name. Nor does a river. Nor does the real you. It helps to remember this when we use terms like mindset or heartset. Label are tools or maps, not reality.

Beyond mindset is what some call heartset. It points to something deeper, more intelligent, and more enduring than thought alone.

The heart is not just a metaphor. There is a spot in the centre of your chest where the energy feels different. It is a centre of intuitive knowing, a portal into our emotional reality. It holds the key to what we value, what we long for, and what we have carried but never voiced. To be guided by the heart means to connect with this deeper layer of truth, where feeling and knowing converge.

There is a line from Sri Avinash Do that captures this: “Be a ruler of your mind and a servant of your heart.” This is not about being ruled by emotion. It is about letting the mind serve the clarity and direction of the heart. Most people are doing the opposite, trying to use the mind to fix what only the heart can heal.

When we start to see with our heart, listen to it, and feel through it, a different kind of clarity arises. One that does not require overthinking, performing, or endlessly adjusting mindset. It shows us what needs attention. What hurts. What is ready to be felt and released.

This is how the true self begins to emerge, clear, unburdened, and alive. This is how we reclaim our full humanity and touch something sacred in ourselves. This is our divine inheritance: a life lived with passion, clarity, and purpose.

🎯 Takeaway: Your nervous system stores your history. Mindset becomes flexible when your inner-world is safe and known deeply by you.

Maybe It's Time to Build a System That Can Hold the Change

Transformation does not come from trying harder to control. It comes from building an inner system that no longer needs control. Imagine that.

One that is stable, adaptive, and rooted in your perfect eternal essence, not in performance, pressure, or perfectionism. Curiously, this kind of system performs at a much higher level - this is where genius lives. By no longer trying to be better, and simply being present, we often become far more effective than ever before.

This is the work I do with professionals, leaders, and teams. We do not just tweak habits or chase goals. We clear what is in the way. We dissolve the blocks at the source, unlock the deeper self, and then pair that inner work with strategy, accountability, and practical action.

It is not about becoming someone else. It is about remembering who you are beneath the armour, the stories, and the labels. When your inner system is clear and steady, the outer world begins to respond in kind. You speak with clarity. You lead with conviction. You live with presence.

Think of a lion. Powerful, yet calm. Alert, but unbothered. No frantic self-correction. No posturing or proving. Just clean presence. When you learn to hold your inner world, it holds you, and you are freed.

This is the deeper layer of career development, leadership growth, and human potential. It is the bridge between inner freedom and outer results. And it is where real, lasting change begins.

If this is something you want to explore, for yourself, your leadership, or your team, I invite you to book a strategy call. Let’s talk.

🎯 Takeaway: Do not just shift the mindset. Shift the system that creates it, unlocking your own source of unique genius in the process.