The Depth Model™: A Map to Unlocking Your Potential

I developed The Depth Model on my quest to understand why I kept seeing the same patterns in people who were trying to change but who ended up chasing surface symptoms, exhausted, discouraged and still stuck. I lived that cycle too.

The Depth Model works by shifting focus inward toward the deep inner-currents that quietly shape choices, outcomes and life trajectories. It’s a clear, simple and practical map to lasting change, genuine transformation which re-connects you with your innate unlimited potential.

"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate" - Carl Jung

So much of what we call change is not change at all. It is surface-level rearrangement. Short-term efforting. Polishing of behaviour. Pure pushing for results. Locking in on goals. All of this quietly leave us the same inside, possibly now suffering even further. I built the Depth Model because I kept seeing this. In myself. In others. In teams. We were solving what we could see, not what was driving it. It works because by bringing the unseen into view. When people see what is really driving them, everything changes. Naturally. Lastingly.

Real transformation demands a different lens. It starts by knowing where you are actually operating from. What part of you is acting, choosing, deciding? What is underneath that?

🎯 Takeaway: The Depth Model provides a guide to real transformation not by doing more but by seeing more of what's inside.

Why Surface Solutions Keep You Stuck

At the top of the Depth Model are the visible and familiar results in your life. What you see around you. You evaluate your career, bank balance, relationships, lifestyle and notice what is lacking. So you jump into action to change or fix. This is what you do and say; your behaviour. Time to act. Push harder. Set new goals. Build new routines. Tighten expectations on yourself or your team. Right?

This is the surface. It is where your outcomes show up, but not where change can be found or begins.

All of this has merit, but none of it is transformational. It does not reach the root of anything. It redirects your existing energy, but it does not expand your capacity. It is like trying to water your garden by running around with the hose faster, when you could simply turn up the water flow, more reach, less effort, less time. That is transformational. Fiddling with results and behaviour keeps the flow the same. So much more is possible.

Trying to act differently from here is exhausting. You are fighting to improve, gripping harder to what you already know in hope of a different outcome. It might seem like progress, but if it is not anchored in something deeper, it becomes a loop. Effortful. Repetitive. Unsustainable.

Behavioural change feels like effort. It demands willpower, discipline, structure, remembering, and accountability. You might see short-term improvements, but they rarely hold. That is because your system seeks alignment. If your actions are not supported by what lies underneath, they will not last. Behavioural change without inner change is like painting over rust. It looks different for a while, but nothing essential has shifted.

🎯 Takeaway: Behaviour is the bridge between your inner world and what shows up in your life. But it is not the origin of your results.

Under the Surface

What drives all of your behaviour is your lived experience in each moment. What you think, feel, and sense. Your mood. Your energy. This is your reality, and it shapes every action you take, every behaviour, and every result.

This is the layer beneath the mask. Everything you feel, avoid, and enjoy happens inside. Only you are in there. Only you can face it. This is where real life takes place. Not outside, not in status or achievements, but in the raw experience of you being you.

Why is your experience not always pleasant? Why do you feel things you wish you didn’t, or say things you later regret? It is because of what you are holding. The burdens you carry. Old wounds from childhood, family, even ancestral. Stories and lies you believe about yourself and the world. None of this can be outrun. This is deep terrain. These buried forces shape your patterns and show up in every area of your life.

These are your forgotten burdens. Unprocessed pain and fear quietly restrict your energy, freedom, and potential. They do not disappear with time. They wait until you turn toward them. The energy here protects the very pain it was built around. Until you see what you are holding, you cannot put it down.

Beneath the wound layer is your true self. The part of you untouched and untouchable by any experience or situation, infinitely powerful, capable, creative, and clear. Your seed of genius. This is not something to develop. It is something to remember, reclaim, and reconnect with. Some call it soul, essence, or authentic self. Exponential transformation happens when you heal what blocks access to this. As you do, you gain increased clarity, alignment, and connection with yourself and with life. This is the transformation I am pointing to.

This is what is possible. This is the part of you that has never been lost. Only hidden. When you clear the way back to this place, everything above it begins to shift. Naturally. Powerfully. Lastingly.

🎯 Takeaway: The journey starts where you feel most alone, beneath the mask, then healing the pain, and eventually back to who you truly are.

How to Work at Depth

Working at depth means choosing the right kind of work for the right part of you.

Superficial outcome tracking such as KPIs, diagnostic tools, metrics, and performance reviews give visibility, but they only measure what has already happened. They reflect outcomes, not origins. So while useful, they cannot create transformation on their own.

Many people reach for behavioural strategies such as habit tools, accountability systems, new routines, and performance frameworks. These methods have value, especially when you need structure or support. But without deeper alignment, these strategies wear thin. They become effortful, and if we keep adding, they eventually collapse under their own weight if they are not rooted in something more true.

To shift behaviour, you need to work with what is happening in the present. This is where embodiment practices come in. Mindfulness, emotional processing, somatic work, and breath awareness bring you back into contact with your moment-to-moment state. They build presence, regulate your nervous system, and give you access to your internal signals in real time.

Compared to the buzz of a new system, app, or productivity hack, these practices can seem slow or underwhelming. But that reaction often signals you are still chasing surface-level fixes. When the strain of staying on the surface eventually becomes too much, we all naturally begin to look deeper. And that is when this work starts to land.

The next layer further down is where our wounds lie, this is where we perform shadow work to heal what's been buried. This is where unresolved pain, protective patterns, and unconscious beliefs live and quietly shape your reactions, responses and results. You cannot think your way through this layer. It requires being felt and met with support. I help with depth coaching, internal parts dialogue, timeline regression, inner child work, and breathwork help you turn toward what you have long avoided so it can finally be released. This is not about fixing yourself. It is about liberating your energy, reconnecting with your wholeness, and becoming more available to yourself and others. No matter how high you are flying, we all carry material here, and when it is met and healed, we fly higher.

Next, we meet your core. Your foundation. Your essence. Having done extensive work here myself, I help people using self-actualisation modalities such as identity exploration, purpose discovery, and other methods to build a direct reconnection with your very core.

🎯 Takeaway: Each layer of you holds a different truth, and demands a different kind of work. Match the method to the depth. That is how transformation becomes inevitable.

How This Work Changed My Life

I didn’t develop the Depth Model in theory. I built it from the inside out by living it, and by slowly freeing myself from what was, in truth, a form of enslavement to my own fear.

For decades, I chased results. I worked with coaches who gave me models, motivation, and frameworks. But looking back, I wasn’t stuck because I lacked structure. I was sad. What I needed was inner work, not more outer performance. Still, I expanded outward: faster, harder, tougher, more. Until, the structure collapsed.

On the outside, I was high performing. Inside, I was unravelling. I carried unprocessed pain, pushed through survival patterns, and polished the surface. But no matter how much I achieved, something stayed stuck. I couldn’t feel peace. I couldn’t rest. I couldn’t feel whole.

As I fell, I met my own depths and began exploring that world, it wasn't by choice, but was ultimately for my benefit. One of my skills is noticing things, paying attention and sensing. Over the next decade, I mapped my inner terrain and laid the groundwork for what would become the Depth Model. I studied psychology, counselling, psychotherapy, coaching, and dozens of modalities. I explored hundreds of models, searching for where they overlapped with my lived experience, and tested everything for truth.

When I stopped trying to fix the surface and turned inward to understand, everything shifted. I faced my patterns. I met the parts of me I had buried. I stopped avoiding discomfort and began listening to it. And slowly, what I had spent years chasing such as clarity, ease, freedom , all began to rise naturally and powerfully from within.

My sense of self deepened. I no longer led or lived from tension. I no longer scattered my energy across masks, performance loops, or subtle proving. I no longer needed to grip. I wasn’t running anymore. I was here.

While I have done a lot, the process is never done, and I continue to become aware of patterns frequently. That’s okay. I keep chopping wood, carrying water, working, and evolving. Today, I still work with multiple coaches. The beauty is I know exactly what and where I need, in very nuanced ways. I work with a coach who helps me meet and integrate material in my wound layer, and another who helps refine my structures, strategy, and outer-world performance as I grow my business. I use the Depth Model to stay clear on where I’m working, why it matters, and what kind of support I need. I use it to help clients understand themselves the same way it helped me.

That’s what this model has given me: a compass to locate myself, permission to move deeper, and the tools to keep evolving without losing centre. It changed how I lead, live, and relate, not by perfecting the surface, but by bringing all of me online.

🎯 Takeaway: The Depth Model didn’t just clarify my coaching, it changed how I live, lead, relate, and rest. This is the work that freed me.

Would you like a copy of The Depth Model? Message me via LinkedIn for a free PDF that visually maps the Depth Model showing each layer, the impact of change at every level, and the most effective modalities to work with each.